Pattern: noun 1. A decorative design, as for wallpaper, china, or fabric. 2. A combination of qualities, acts, and tendencies forming a consistent or characteristic arrangement.
Humans, by design, are one of the most predictably habitual creatures on the face of this planet. Our social interactions, eating schedules, commutes from here to there, and even work ethics can be tracked and predicted to an exact science. Have you ever noticed how you get hungry around the same time every day, feel tired around the same time every day? Or how you react to joy, anger, embarrassment? Let’s go a bit further.
How long would it take you to describe your morning “routine”? Two sentences? Maybe three? Pretty boring, right? Yet, if you were to describe in detail the reasons for every motion, every choice – why you use this product or that one, why you take this route to work, or the gym, or school, or day care, you could almost write a 5 page thesis.
The fact of the matter is we design patterns and ways of thinking for our every day of our lives, regardless if we want to admit it or not. Some perfect examples… good and bad: Cause: Your boss sends you an email or calls you and says he needs to speak to you. Effect: Most people get nervous and retrace where they might have made an error. Cause: You’re standing at the end of line at the grocery story. Another clerk walks past you towards an adjacent register. Effect: Your heart rate speeds up, and you quickly scurry to check out before the “register open” light comes on.
A very sad pattern; A rather judgmental person is walking home. As they turn the corner to the next block, they see a group of younger individuals of a different ethnicity. They are fearful, clutching their belongs tight, averting their eyes downward to avoid antagonizing any possible threat.
We find ourselves thinking and reacting almost identically despite the circumstances we face. It’s our way of thinking and repeating that thought process over and over that provides the end result. I’m sure we all know someone who is very negative most of the time. This person is always complaining about traffic, or co-workers, family members, political figures, you name it. Why do you think that is? It has been scientifically proven that a positive thought is hundreds of times more powerful than a negative one, so why is this person always so down?
From a cosmic perspective, they attract negativity energy to themselves. From a human being point of view, they habitually train their mind to see the glass as half empty. The same thing can be said for the enlightened few who always seem to have good fortune.
Winston Churchill once said “The pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; the optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty” We all have our good and not so good days. Yet, you’ve probably noticed that most embrace one way of thinking or another. Heck, it seems like the entire country music industry is based on negative thinking!
“My woman left home, my truck broke down, the dog is dead, and the government is coming to collect my savings.” Yes, those that know me personally will vouch that my knowledge of country music is as developed as my interest in the matting rituals of the dung beetle, but I hope you see my point. SO NEGATIVE!
On the other hand, one has to notice and acknowledge that successful people seem to have no limits. How many millionaires do you read or hear about that are actors, musicians, philanthropists, project developers, charity drivers etc? These people not only have the golden touch, but it appears that every few months they accomplish yet another task that is impossible for the mere mortal.
The only thing that separates the “victims” from the “victors” is their way of thinking. Victors have set thought processes that keep their mind focused on overcoming obstacles. They see things in a timely manner and don’t get discouraged when a task tests their patience. They believe with all of their heart that sooner or later success will be theirs. Same thing for Victims… only polar opposite. They see the risks and lack the courage to face them. They look for failure rates and analyze how likely they will be the next one. Victims create excuse after excuse after excuse as to why things are always turning against them. It’s their failure pattern, much like a beautiful drape, every few inches the design repeats itself.
If you truly desire to be successful and commit to that success, you absolutely must develop mental patterns for success. There is no getting around it. How else are you going to deal with the struggle of not getting it right on the first try? Or having to make adjustments to your plans. Or dealing with people who only reinforce doubt by trying to convince you that you might not make it?
Personally, I’m a big fan of meditation, and I highly suggest you try it before you knock it. I once heard a wise man say “Praying is talking to God. Meditating is allowing him to answer back.” If that has any merit at all, why not allow yourself to listen to the power of creation? If you’re trying to create success in love, health, business, or spiritual enlightenment, why not turn to the source of that power and hear what they have to say? Once you develop those patterns of thinking, you avoid the negative no matter how bleak things may seem, and despite how high you wish to soar into the stars and beyond, I know you’ll get there.
See you at the top.